5 Signs You Are Codependent

5 Signs You Are Codependent

Are you a Codependent?

•             Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?

•             Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?

•             Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol or drug problem?

•             Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?

•             Are the opinions of others more important than your own?

•             Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?

•             Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?

•             Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?

•             Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?

•             Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?

•             Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?

•             Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done?

•             Are you confused about who you are or where you are going with your life?

•             Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?

•             Do you have trouble asking for help?


What is Codependency?

Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another. It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others. Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships. Codependency often affects a spouse, a parent, sibling, friend, or co-worker of a person afflicted with alcohol or drug dependence.

Harmful Effects of Being Codependent

Unresolved patterns of codependency can lead to more serious problems like alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, sex addiction, and other self-destructive or self-defeating behaviors. People with codependency are also more likely to attract further abuse from aggressive individuals, more likely to stay in stressful jobs or relationships, less likely to seek medical attention when needed and are also less likely to get promotions and tend to earn less money than those without codependency patterns.

For some, the social insecurity caused by codependency can progress into full-blown social anxiety disorders like social phobia, avoidant personality disorder or painful shyness. Other stress-related disorders like panic disorder, depression or PTSD may also be present.

Characteristics of Co-dependent People Are:

•             An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others

•             A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue

•             A tendency to do more than their share, all of the time

•             A tendency to become hurt when people don’t recognize their efforts

•             An unhealthy dependence on relationships. The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a   relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment

•             An extreme need for approval and recognition

•             A sense of guilt when asserting themselves

•             A compelling need to control others

•             Lack of trust in self and/or others

•             Fear of being abandoned or alone

•             Difficulty identifying feelings

•             Rigidity/difficulty adjusting to change

•             Problems with intimacy/boundaries

•             Chronic anger

•             Lying/dishonesty

•             Poor communications

•             Difficulty making decisions


5 Signs of Codependency

#1. The codependent makes excuses for the other person’s behavior.


#2. The codependent enables the person with the problem to keep going down the wrong path and is in denial that the other person has a problem. Likewise, the opposite is also true: the codependent doesn’t realize that they have a problem and thinks that they are helping the troubled person when they are really not.


#3. The codependent takes care of everything such as money, the household, etc.


#4. The codependent acts like the main person in order to keep a good family image.


#5. The codependent withdraws from others and acts like he/she doesn’t care what others have to say.








Therapy for Sociopathy

Therapy for Sociopathy

Sociopathy is also known as anti-social personality disorder. When it comes to sociopathy it can be very difficult to treat and there is no known cure for it. Sociopathy can be managed with the help from therapy though. There are many challenges when it comes to treating sociopathy and in therapy for sociopathy; most of these challenges come from the fact that the patient usually does not believe they have a problem, they are usually charming, they defend and rationalize their behavior, and also believe the way they are acting works well for them in their daily life. People with a need for therapy for their sociopathy also tend to think they are superior to everyone and smarter than everyone including doctors which can make them unwilling to seek treatment. Usually, someone who needs therapy for sociopathy ends up getting the help because they are court mandated or pressured by family members. When they do decide to get therapy there are three different treatments that are most commonly used: behavioral therapy, cognitive therapy and psychotherapy.

Therapy for sociopathy: Behavioral Therapy

Behavioral therapy for sociopathy is based on the idea that the anti-social behavior associated with the mental disorder is not a set of beliefs but was and is learned. This learned anti-social behavior may have had something to do with the patient’s environment overtime starting with when they were a child. Someone with sociopathy will react to a situation today with behaviors or responses they learned in the past. Behavioral therapy for sociopathy is helpful because: it can help identify some of what causes the anti-social responses in the patient and then teach new coping behaviors to them. There are many ways that behavioral therapy for sociopathy does this; through token economy, which is using a symbolic token to reinforce good behavior, social skills training, and conditioning.

Cognitive therapy for sociopathy bases its treatment on the idea that; thoughts control behavior, so by taking care of the thoughts and feelings, they can change the behavior. Cognitive therapy for sociopathy also uses models where the patient can watch a healthy person cope effectively with situations that are challenging, stressful etc. and then imitate them to help with anger management and social skills.

Psychotherapy for sociopathy goes deeper than cognitive therapy and behavioral therapy to look at the deep-rooted causes behind the patient’s antisocial behavior. Psychotherapists see sociopathy as disturbance in the personality and work with the patient to not only repair but also recognize the parts of the personality that need work and development.

The use of drugs is also a party of the therapy for sociopathy. The use of drugs in the therapy for sociopathy is controversial because sociopathy is a behavioral disorder that develops over time and it is believed by some that just “masking” it with prescription drugs is not an effective way to treat it.

In severe cases of sociopathy where the individual is showing disregard towards the safety of themselves or others than shock therapy could be used as a physical therapy for sociopathy. Although, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) has not been proven to be helpful in the treatment of sociopathy.

Sociopathy can never be cured but with a mixture of some these therapies and what those in the field advise it is possible for someone to recover from their mental health problems and lead a fulfilling life.

Source: http://www.wisegeek.org/how-is-sociopathy-treated.htm