5 Signs You Are Codependent

5 Signs You Are Codependent

Are you a Codependent?

•             Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?

•             Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?

•             Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol or drug problem?

•             Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?

•             Are the opinions of others more important than your own?

•             Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?

•             Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?

•             Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?

•             Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?

•             Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?

•             Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?

•             Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done?

•             Are you confused about who you are or where you are going with your life?

•             Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?

•             Do you have trouble asking for help?


What is Codependency?

Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another. It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others. Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships. Codependency often affects a spouse, a parent, sibling, friend, or co-worker of a person afflicted with alcohol or drug dependence.

Harmful Effects of Being Codependent

Unresolved patterns of codependency can lead to more serious problems like alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, sex addiction, and other self-destructive or self-defeating behaviors. People with codependency are also more likely to attract further abuse from aggressive individuals, more likely to stay in stressful jobs or relationships, less likely to seek medical attention when needed and are also less likely to get promotions and tend to earn less money than those without codependency patterns.

For some, the social insecurity caused by codependency can progress into full-blown social anxiety disorders like social phobia, avoidant personality disorder or painful shyness. Other stress-related disorders like panic disorder, depression or PTSD may also be present.

Characteristics of Co-dependent People Are:

•             An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others

•             A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue

•             A tendency to do more than their share, all of the time

•             A tendency to become hurt when people don’t recognize their efforts

•             An unhealthy dependence on relationships. The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a   relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment

•             An extreme need for approval and recognition

•             A sense of guilt when asserting themselves

•             A compelling need to control others

•             Lack of trust in self and/or others

•             Fear of being abandoned or alone

•             Difficulty identifying feelings

•             Rigidity/difficulty adjusting to change

•             Problems with intimacy/boundaries

•             Chronic anger

•             Lying/dishonesty

•             Poor communications

•             Difficulty making decisions


5 Signs of Codependency

#1. The codependent makes excuses for the other person’s behavior.


#2. The codependent enables the person with the problem to keep going down the wrong path and is in denial that the other person has a problem. Likewise, the opposite is also true: the codependent doesn’t realize that they have a problem and thinks that they are helping the troubled person when they are really not.


#3. The codependent takes care of everything such as money, the household, etc.


#4. The codependent acts like the main person in order to keep a good family image.


#5. The codependent withdraws from others and acts like he/she doesn’t care what others have to say.








Personality Disorders and Drug Addiction

Personality Disorders and Drug Addiction

Personality Disorders and Drug Addiction

Someone who suffers from a personality disorder often suffers from drug addiction as well. People who suffer from personality disorders and drug addiction may also have a harder time with recovery. For some people their drug addiction causes the symptoms of a personality disorder and for others the symptom of the personality disorder prolongs the drug addiction.  Either way when a personality disorder and drug addiction co-exist they tend to aggravate each other. This means that a personality disorder makes the drug addiction worse and the drug addiction makes the personality disorder worse.

What is a personality disorder?

A person’s personality is shown in the way they think, feel, behave and relate to other people. In different ways our personality helps define who we are. A personality disorder is when a person’s thinking, feelings, behavior or relation to other people create significant problems for them or for others. Some examples of personality disorders include: borderline personality, schizotypal personality, paranoid personality, schizoid personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, avoidant personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, dependent personality disorder, obsessive compulsive and narcissistic personality disorder. All of these personality disorders can range from mild to severe depending on how much they interfere with someone’s day to day life.

Many of the symptoms of a personality disorder also could be symptoms of a drug addiction. For instance some symptoms of both are:

  • Poor impulse control
  • Alcohol or substance abuse
  • Social isolation and/or difficulty making friends
  • Angry outbursts
  • Constantly suspicious of others
  • A need for instant gratification
  • Making up lies
  • Mood swings that occur fairly often
  • Perfectionism and inflexibility
  • Limited ability to express or feel emotions
  • A lack of concern for others with the need to be admired

The list of symptoms for both personality disorders and drug addiction could go on and on. So if someone has a personality disorder and drug addiction what should they do?

Diagnosing a personality disorder when someone also has a drug addiction can be difficult. This is because some of the symptoms of the drug addiction may seem like symptoms of a personality disorder but they really aren’t and vice versa. Talking to someone who is a substance abuse or drug addiction therapists will ensure that each individual gets a more accurate diagnosis.

There is treatment available for both personality disorders and drug addiction. They usually should be treated together but can be treated separately. Treatment for personality disorders and drug addiction usually involves therapy and medications. Some medications for personality disorders can be addictive though so it is best that all medications are discussed with a health professional who also knows about drug addiction and alcohol dependency. Therapy for personality disorders and drug addiction is usually done in a one on one setting where the therapist can really take a look at the more deep rooted issues that could be going on. When it comes to personality disorders they become a different kind of mental health problem when drug addiction is involved. This is the case with most things mental health issues when it comes to drug addiction. Either way there is always help available for those with personality disorders and drug addiction.